Marriage is good for men
The "wisdom" of the bitter men who have taken the "red pill" is inferior to the wisdom God gives us in Proverbs 18:22.
There is an increasingly loud chorus of men in the online "manosphere" that has taken the "red pill" about how feminism is terrible and has ruined Western women. I see memes on social media about how men should avoid getting married - your career and bank account will thank you. Just as radical feminists have bleated for generations about how we need to destroy the family to achieve true equality, parts of the "red pill" masculinist movement are also opposed to marriage and family.
But the men's rights activists who have taken the "red pill" and advise men against marriage are wrong. Married men are statistically far better off than single men, and one of the ways to greater health, wealth and happiness for men is to get married. The "wisdom" of the bitter men who have taken the "red pill" is inferior to the wisdom God gives us in Proverbs 18:22.
Some of this is seeping into commentary by traditional conservatives. I heard a conservative podcaster, who is normally pretty solid, say a couple weeks ago that from a purely logical standpoint, no man would get married. The idea was that we make decisions based on love or commitment or faith that are not purely logical.
But this is just statistically wrong, as marriage is good for men. Statistically, married men are healthier, happier and wealthier than their single counterparts. See here and here regarding wealth. See here regarding how married men are healthier. See here for information about how married men are happier than single men. Married men also live longer than single men. For more, see here and here. The manosphere and the "red pill" right want to convince us otherwise, but the fact of the matter is that, statistically speaking, marriage is good for men.
Yes I know there are exceptions. There are men who have had their lives ruined by marrying terrible women, and there are women who have had their lives ruined by marrying terrible men. There are always exceptions to a general truth. However, exceptions to a general truth do not disprove the general truth. They only indicate that a general truth is not a universal truth, especially in a world corrupted by sin.
But what about divorce? The divorce rate is said to be 50%. That statistic is disputed, but let's assume that is true. That does not mean you have a coin flip of staying married after you exchange vows. The key starts well before vows are exchanged. You can greatly reduce your chances of getting divorced if you pick a good partner, watch for red flags, and develop good habits before you get married. Most importantly, make sure your marriage is grounded in Jesus Christ and His church.
Yes, your wife or husband may flake out at some point, even if every indication at the outset was that you chose wisely. Sometimes both husband and wife flake out. All of man is corrupted by sin from fertilization to death. But while choosing wisely does not completely eliminate your risk of divorce, it does greatly diminish that risk.
Do not give in to cynicism and despair. Marriage is good for both men and women. Marriage is a creation ordinance, created by God before the Fall of Man. While marriage will always face the sin of both partners, it is not that difficult to avoid divorce - especially if you make wise decisions before you get married. Trust God that He will preserve the covenant you both made before Him. Live by faith.