The sins of one sex do not negate the sins of the other
The "red pill" has increasingly become a "get out of rebuke free" card for men.
It has long been the case that women (even Christians) resort to whataboutism when sins common to women are rebuked. "What about the men?" And churches all over the world, intimidated by feminism, women in their own families and congregations, and feeling guilt over not rebuking men in generations past, collapse and steadfastly refuse to hold women accountable when they are in sin. Many men have abandoned the church for this reason.
However, even as some more faithful churches have reversed this trend, it is increasingly common that men do the same. They complain that pastors (or Christians in the public square generally) who point out male sins are "beta males" or "white knights."
The "red pill" refers to men who have seen the flaws of feminism. While this is a good thing, the "red pill" has increasingly become a "get out of rebuke free" card for men, because they see the church as "compromised" to feminism. But this does not mean that these men are sinless. They have become unteachable, pointing fingers at women instead of recognizing their own sins and the need to repent.
It is good to want consistency: Churches who are faithful to Scripture will point out sins that are common to one sex or the other and then call both men and women to repent and follow Christ. It is not good to use whataboutism to escape responsibility for your own behavior and avoid repentance. Very few men and women are teachable today, because being teachable requires humility. It's all about "me, me me." It ought to be about the honor of God.
Forget about what other people do. Focus on your own life. This does not mean we should excuse egregious hypocrisy or compromise of doctrine, but it is childish to demand that every time someone points out the sins of one group he must then point out the sins of the other group to be "consistent." Our primary focus should be honoring God in our own lives, not pointing at someone else.