For Valentines Day, reject the Black Pill
Christians have always lived in a world corrupted by sin, because all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.
There are trash men. They will commit adultery, they are lazy, and they will abuse their wives. There are also trash women. They will commit adultery, they are lazy, and they will abuse their husbands. (Yes, abuse happens both ways, and abuse takes many forms.) Good men have had their lives destroyed by trash women, and good women have had their lives destroyed by trash men. Many men and women have fallen into the sins of bitterness, hopelessness and despair because "today's generation" is allegedly so terrible.
The place I see the most despair and hopelessness is with "masculinist" celebrities like Andrew Tate. One would not think that Tate (who has multiple concubines and children from them) lives in fear, but when he says that "all women are sex workers" who want to be supported by a man in exchange for sex because they are lazy and stupid, you know this is a man who is terrified of marrying one woman. She could divorce him, he could lose his children, or tragedy could strike and he could be a widower. No, better for this "devoted Muslim" to live a completely hedonistic and pagan lifestyle.
The only solution is to be single forever, or if you are financially successful enough you can be a "Top G" and a "pimp" like Tate. Your career will be better, you will be happier, and so forth. Yes, you may long for companionship, but the risk of wasting your life with a trash person is too great. Right?
Wrong.
Look, we live in a decadent society. We are increasingly living in a post-Christian society. It is certainly arguable that single young people in 2025 need to be more careful than they were in 1995 or 1975. But Christians have always lived in a decadent society. There were marriages that fell apart in the 1950's and there was sexual immorality, alcoholism and spousal abuse back then. Christians have always lived in a world corrupted by sin, because all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.
Marriage is declining. Fewer people are getting married, and fewer have any interest in doing so. Those who want to be married are discouraged in their ability to find a good spouse. But the challenges that Christian singles (or Christian married couples) face today are no different than they were 50 or 100 or 1000 years ago. They may take different forms or some things might be better or worse than others at various points in history, but marriage and family has always been a risk.
A friend of mine recently said on social media of people despairing of marriage that "if you want to be losers, be losers... You can wallow in the ashes or build something. The choice is yours." He is right. Christians today, especially Christian singles, need to step out in faith and trust God. Yes, there are challenges today that were not as severe 20 or 25 years ago, and there are challenges that take different and challenging forms.
But the solution is not to give in to cynicism and despair, refusing to believe that God can provide a spouse, a good home, and children. The solution is to have faith that we can live in 2025 as Christians have lived for two thousand years, and as the people of God lived for thousands of years before that. The God of the Bible, the omnipotent creator of the universe, is not powerless to overcome feminism, online pornography, promiscuity, or the "Manosphere." Someone who despairs of the prospects for marriage because of "feminism" or whatever other excuse worships a small and weak god. Do you really think that after Jesus Christ conquered death itself that He cannot defeat feminism? Really?
So have faith. Seek a Christian spouse. Be wise, seek counsel, and avoid making foolish and rash choices that you will regret in ten or twenty years, but a Christian community is a perfect place to start. That means you should go to church. Pray. Grow in wisdom and be accountable to older men (for men) and older women (for women) who are wise and trustworthy. God can and will provide. Cynicism and despair are the tools Satan uses to steal the good gifts that God has for all of us.
See previous articles here and here and here and here and here and here and here and here and here.